Crush

Q. Well its about me having a crush on this guy since yr 7 and now I am going in yr 11 (I know my friends say I dumb for liking him for tht long).  I told him I like him at the end of yr 9. Well its really confusing because he gives mix signals (btw I told him over facebook and when sent him the msg we werent friends but like after he read the msg he added me) anyways after tht i started talking to him on fb but he would reply really late or he would say tht he needs to go after talking for a min. When ever I see him at a party or at school he acts so weird like he wants to be around me but doesnt wants to be at the same time. I am scared of talking to him face to face cuz I get butterflies when I see him (even after liking him for tht long). I start talking gibberish LOL. So wht should I do? does he likes me or hates me?

A. Hi :)
 This is such a common issue, but at the end of the day you need to know where you stand.
To be blunt, by the sounds of it, (facebook section especially) it does sound like perhaps he isn't 'into' you as such but to avoid embarrassment if you've got a friend you can trust, I would suggest you maybe ask her/him to casually find out who he likes. Maybe he does like you just is slightly embarrassed or shy or he doesn't like you in a relationship way but doesn't want to hurt your feelings. Either way, after liking this guy for the best part of 4 years, you've been focused on him entirely, you may be missing all the other suitable guys around you.

Guys like this are so confusing, showing signs they like you one minute, and the next acting all akward around you and it can be really frustrating especially after a long period of time, so the best way to go is find out, it may not be the outcome you'd like but at least you know the truth and can move on if needs be. But hey' if worst comes to worst don't let this stop a good friendship, from year 7-11 you've known each other a long time and this could develop into a good frienship. At school or a party when you see him, dont be scared to say a quick hi, it will get you talking and who knows where it will lead.

Hope this Helps & Good Luck

Sophie xoxo